Feeling frustrated? Struggling in your relationships with men? Can’t figure out what men really want? How they think?… Why they act the way they do?
You’re not alone, MANY women struggle with trying to figure out… just what the heck it is that men really want?
In fact it goes both ways… many men struggle with what women want too… and as a result, we are not doing very well in our relationships.
In a recent survey, over 500 women who were either married or in a serious relationship, were asked the question… “What statement best describes your relationship?”
The results were pretty sad… only 5.7% said “Our relationship couldn’t be better” 52% said “We’ll survive, it’s just really hard right now.”
And the rest, 41.9%, had no faith left in their relationship at all… with comments such as “We’re together but it’s cold, distant and loveless”, “My spouse doesn’t even care about our relationship anymore” and “Our relationship doesn’t even have a pulse.”
Wow… sad isn’t it… over 90% are struggling, unhappy or have completely given up.
At least one comforting thing you can take from this, if you are struggling to understand men and relationships… you are far from alone.
So where do you begin, to start figuring out how men think, what they want and how to have a successful relationship.
The first step is recognizing what is going wrong…
It’s not so much that men and women want different things, as far as relationships go, we all WANT a good relationship where we can love and be loved. Nobody actually wants a bad relationship.
The problem is that men and women think and communicate differently.
Neither way is right or wrong… we are just different.
So if you want to improve your relationship with your man, starting right now, there are two simple things you can start doing… that will make a huge difference to how your man responds to you.
1. Learn the communication style that men respond to best
2. Learn about timing
First of all communication… Did you know that there are four different communication styles. We all use one of these. Three of them are a turn off to men and one is a turn on.
The four communication styles are: passive, aggressive, passive‐aggressive, and assertive.
Of the four styles, assertive is the sexiest to a man. Why?…
Because he always knows where he stands with you.
Unlike the other communication styles…
Passive… He never knows what you want because you won’t say. Men hate trying to read your mind!
Aggressive… Where you yell, criticize, nag or threaten. This will make your man shut down.
Passive-Aggressive… Where you say one thing but mean another. Your man will be confused and will also shut down.
Assertive communication means sticking up for yourself, but in a respectful way. No yelling or nagging. Calmly and firmly stating what you want. Guys love women who communicate like this. Men find confident women very sexy.
The second important thing is timing…
Don’t try and launch into a full on conversation with your man the moment he gets home from work. Guys need time to unwind after a day at work. They need time to switch off.
Women tend to want to talk straight away, about everything they did that day. Guys don’t. So give him some space, leave him alone for a while and then gently try and start a conversation once he is relaxed. You will get a much better response from him this way.
Also, don’t try and start a great big in depth conversation while he is watching his favorite sport on TV… or in bed, when he is just about to nod off to sleep.
We really do get our timing wrong sometimes. We need to learn to stop and think.
So next time you want to talk to your man about something… stop, think, stay calm…
Choose the right moment and speak your mind calmly and honestly and you will most likely get a response that you are very pleased with.
If you want to find out more about what men really want plus a few more tips on how to communicate with your man, there’s a great video you can watch right here :
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Another common question many women have is How do I know he loves me?
Many people mistakenly think that love is just a feeling, an emotion. Real love is a lot more than that… it is about actions. Sure… feeling in love with someone does evoke powerful feelings, but loving someone is more than just those feelings.
Truly loving someone affects every area of your life… your thoughts, your feelings and your actions.
Your man can say he loves you and buy you flowers and gifts… these are ways of expressing his feelings for you and it sure is nice to hear the words and receive the gifts. It also shows that he’s thinking about you and wants to please you.
But is this real love?… It’s really just the beginning, it’s the infatuation and the strong feelings and emotions that come with the early stages of a relationship.
There is more to real love… you can see the clues in the every day actions of your man, as to whether he really loves you or not.
Here are a few things to look out for :
1.Does he use the words we and us… or me and I?
For instance, if someone asks him “What did you get up to on the weekend?”
And he replies “I went to that new movie………. ” even though you both went together.
I was with a guy for years… who spoke like this to other people, in front of me.
It made me feel insignificant… it hurt. It finally dawned on me that he didn’t really identify with us as a unit.
When you really care about someone… you include them, you think of yourselves as a team.
2. Does he ask you things about yourself?
Does he ask you meaningful things about yourself? How you really think and feel… about your
past and what you want from your future. What your goals and dreams are?
This shows he really wants to connect… he cares enough to want to know the real you.
3. Does he tell you about himself?
The same thing applies here too… does he tell you about his life, his past, his dreams etc
If he does… he wants you to know the real him too.
4. Does he want to meet your family and friends?
This is part of really getting to know you as well. Is he keen to meet your friends and family or does he grudgingly go with you? If he really cares about you, he would want to get to know the people in your life. And he would also want the people in his life to get to know you.
5. How does he react when you are upset?
How does he react to you when you are upset? Is he caring and comforting? Or does he back off or shut down. Someone who truly cares about you, can handle you being upset and wants to help.
These are some of the main things to look out for… if you are trying to figure out, if your man really does love you.
Just remember… that loving you is more than words, or the occasional nice gift… it’s about him treating you, every day, like you really do matter to him.
PS. If you want to find out with almost 100% certainty if your man really does love you, go watch this eye opening video right now : How To Know If A Man Really Loves You
In the video you will be asked 7 questions which will kill all doubt and anxiety and answer your question once and for all… Does He Really Love Me?
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Still haven’t found the right guy?
Getting sick of bad relationships and a broken heart?
Tired of always ending up with Mr Wrong… while it seems like everyone around you has managed to find their Mr Right? Believe me… I know how you feel.
Have you heard of Mike Fiore? He’s an Amazon best selling author. He’s been on Rachael Ray and he’s even been interviewed by Time magazine.
Well… he believes there are a few reasons why some women always end up with the wrong man. He believes there are things that many women are doing, unintentionally, which scare the great guys away.
As a result, many amazing women are ending up alone… it’s sad.
Before you talk to another guy or go on another date… you need to watch a short video Mike has made. In it he reveals the devastating secrets about why most women never find the RIGHT guy… and the 3 Steps any woman can do to Capture A Man’s Heart And Make Him Love You Forever.
My favorite part of this video is when Mike describes what it’s like to REALLY have THE RIGHT man in your life…
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Surveys have shown, what men want in a woman and what women think they want… aren’t necessarily the same thing.
Here are a few things that many men say they want in a woman that you may find surprising :
1. When asked what physical attributes they like most in women… most men said nice eyes and smile
2. Most men prefer average sized natural breasts over large unnatural implants
3. Most men prefer women with curvy healthy looking bodies… not the stick thin model images we so frequently see.
4. Men don’t like too much make up… most prefer a natural or light makeup look
5. Men prefer women in clothes that aren’t too revealing. Most men prefer to have a little bit left to their imagination. They prefer a hint of sexiness… rather than clothes that are too tight and skimpy.
6. Most men think fidelity and commitment are important too. Not all men are cheats… most disapprove of cheating just as much as women do.
Men also say, they think confident women are sexy and they love women who aren’t overly obsessed with their looks. They love women who are comfortable with their own bodies… they find this very sexy.
Men hate being asked questions like “Does my butt look big in this?”… they love a woman who is comfortable with her butt… no matter how big and curvy!
So if you really want to be attractive to men… work first on your self esteem.
And the next time you feel tempted to say “Does my butt look big in this?”… DON’T!
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What do men want most in a relationship?
To know where they stand and what you expect from them.
Men hate silly games… they hate having to try and read your mind.
They are much happier if you speak your mind and say what you want. Let them know exactly what you expect from the relationship.
And guess what… you will be much happier too.
So many women are reluctant to speak up in their relationships. They swallow their own needs and go along with what their man wants… rather than say something that might rock the boat.
Your man would much prefer, that you do rock the boat a bit. He’d much rather you say what you want… even if it’s different than what he wants.
Continually denying your own needs builds resentment over time. Your man will pick up on this resentment and feel confused… and wonder what he is doing wrong. By saying one thing, in order to keep the peace, then silently festering because it’s not what you really want… you are sending such mixed signals. So in your quest to keep the peace… you are actually destroying the peace.
So many women actually sabotage their relationships by repeating this behavior over and over again… with issues big and small.
Start making changes with the small issues…
Here’s a common example… you are going out to dinner and your man asks you where you want to eat and you say “I don’t mind, you choose” and then you sit and sulk over your meal because it’s not what you really wanted. He chose a Steakhouse and you really wanted Italian.
Next time he asks… how about you say “I quite like the idea of Italian, how about you?”
Once you get good at speaking up on all the small, daily issues… your confidence will improve and you will be better able to handle the big issues when they arise.
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Part of knowing what men want
is knowing what men don’t want
Here are five things many men wished the women in their lives knew…
1. They Hate Shopping
Most guys hate shopping… all types of shopping and especially being dragged along while you shop for new clothes. Do you think they actually like sitting there feeling all awkward and out of place while you try things on? NO… to most men shopping is a chore… not a fun activity.
2. They Hate Nagging
Guys hate being nagged… it doesn’t achieve anything anyway… they just tune out.
3. They Hate Petty Mindedness
Men hate it when you fuss over little things… seriously… it makes them question your intelligence. Don’t waste your energy on the little things… save it for the big stuff. They will take you much more seriously that way.
4. They Hate You Digging Up Old Issues Over And Over Again
Men hate it when you bring up old issues over and over… and continually throw their mistakes back in their face time and time again. Most guys say… they don’t mind owning up to their mistakes or admitting they were wrong… Once! They just don’t want to have to apologize for the one mistake, many times over.
5. The Time To Start An In Depth Conversation Isn’t…
a. In the middle of a game
b. Just before they are about to nod off to sleep at night
c. Over the phone while they are at work
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If you’re like most women… you’ve probably been lied to by a man.
In fact, it’s almost a certainty… because men do lie to women… a lot!
They lie about little things, big things and things that don’t even really matter.
And a lot of women want to know WHY? It’s terribly frustrating…
Why do men lie? Why can’t they just tell the truth?
According to relationship expert Michael Fiore… ALL men lie… even the “good guys” lie to the women they love… but it’s not for the reasons that most women think.
Michael says… there are actually three reasons men lie to women and two of them are pretty innocent…
One of the main reasons men lie to women… is because they are scared of women.
Not physically… men are scared of women’s emotions…
Emotions are actually a lot harder for men to deal with, than they are for women.
From a young age… guys learn that if you tell a woman the truth, she just might freak out and flood you with scary emotions…
So pretty early on, they learn to watch what they say… rather than have to deal with your emotions.
Of course there’s other reasons men lie too…
If you want to learn more about the REAL reasons men lie to the women they love, why men CHEAT on women, why men don’t communicate and many of the other questions that drive women crazy…
You really should go and watch the new video that Michael Fiore just released… (see below)
Michael asked over 20,000 men… “What do you desperately wish that women knew… but you could NEVER actually tell them yourself?”
The men really opened up… about what they want from women, how they feel about women and what really makes them angry about women…
The results are JUICY…
In fact, be warned…Michael pulls no punches… many women will find the results shocking and devastating. It’s not for the faint of heart…
So… if you want to hear the truth about the real reasons men lie to women…
Even though you may not like it all… you need to watch Michael’s video now :